Update on Past Soccer Game
Nov 9, 2016 20:24:03 GMT
Post by JeepGirl on Nov 9, 2016 20:24:03 GMT
It has been a few weeks since I attended my grandson's soccer game where not only my ex and his wife were there but, also, my es and granddaughter. I did print out the replies I received from all of you and as I re-read them, I was comforted and encouraged. You each had such wisdom, along with good advice.
Well, I have been in the Word much more and praying, praying, praying. The other day, I was at my daughter's and she was home alone. I knew I had to talk to her but, in the past, our conversations always ended up in an argument and she thinking I was blaming her, rather than being able to just talk. Before I got to her house, I prayed for the Holy Spirit to give me the right countenance and words to speak with her.
The visit turned out so positive. My daughter was talking about something unrelated but I was able to interject how I felt about the soccer game. To my surprise, my daughter said, she knew and that she couldn't believe the whole thing and felt so bad. I told her she didn't do anything and I did get through it. She said, "Mom, you really handled it so well." At that point, I told her it was definitely God, not me. And then I was able to continue and tell her my intent was to go to all my grandson's games; however, because the aftermath was so traumatic for me, I would have to pray about attending each one. I asked if she would just give me a heads up if she knew her brother or niece were planning on going and she said she would. She even went on to say that she did not know how they knew about the game, unless her father had told them. I remained quiet. Anyway, that fact that she acknowledged how difficult it was for me and that we agreed how to handle it in the future, was a huge obstacle to overcome that day.
Again, I thank each of you for your replies. Initially, I was reacting from my emotions. Several of you said not to make a decision at that point as to whether or not I would go to future games and you were so right on.
And as a side note, re Thanksgiving, I was feeling so much better that I told my daughter (and I was sincere) that if she wanted to go to her in-laws for Thanksgiving, she should go and not be concerned about us, we would be fine. I said go and see and enjoy her new nephew. She insisted she wanted to have Thanksgiving at her house and that is what she was doing. The other day, she called to tell me her in-laws, including brother-in-law and new baby would all be coming to her house on Thanksgiving. So......these days I am working on my lack of "faith" and asking the Lord to help me to trust and have faith in HIM.
Well, I have been in the Word much more and praying, praying, praying. The other day, I was at my daughter's and she was home alone. I knew I had to talk to her but, in the past, our conversations always ended up in an argument and she thinking I was blaming her, rather than being able to just talk. Before I got to her house, I prayed for the Holy Spirit to give me the right countenance and words to speak with her.
The visit turned out so positive. My daughter was talking about something unrelated but I was able to interject how I felt about the soccer game. To my surprise, my daughter said, she knew and that she couldn't believe the whole thing and felt so bad. I told her she didn't do anything and I did get through it. She said, "Mom, you really handled it so well." At that point, I told her it was definitely God, not me. And then I was able to continue and tell her my intent was to go to all my grandson's games; however, because the aftermath was so traumatic for me, I would have to pray about attending each one. I asked if she would just give me a heads up if she knew her brother or niece were planning on going and she said she would. She even went on to say that she did not know how they knew about the game, unless her father had told them. I remained quiet. Anyway, that fact that she acknowledged how difficult it was for me and that we agreed how to handle it in the future, was a huge obstacle to overcome that day.
Again, I thank each of you for your replies. Initially, I was reacting from my emotions. Several of you said not to make a decision at that point as to whether or not I would go to future games and you were so right on.
And as a side note, re Thanksgiving, I was feeling so much better that I told my daughter (and I was sincere) that if she wanted to go to her in-laws for Thanksgiving, she should go and not be concerned about us, we would be fine. I said go and see and enjoy her new nephew. She insisted she wanted to have Thanksgiving at her house and that is what she was doing. The other day, she called to tell me her in-laws, including brother-in-law and new baby would all be coming to her house on Thanksgiving. So......these days I am working on my lack of "faith" and asking the Lord to help me to trust and have faith in HIM.
