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Post by poodlegirl61 on Oct 6, 2016 15:38:01 GMT
I haven't been on here much lately. It isn't because everything is rosy over here, not at all. Nothing has changed in the estrangement department. Zero changes. My ES and his wife's third baby is due sometime around Halloween and I guess as that date gets closer, I get gloomier. This will be the second of their children I will not get to meet. This has just been a terrible year and it isn't over yet. As some of you may remember, my daughter's husband cheated on her back in March, and they have been separated ever since. That has been such a heartache. Due to financial reasons, they aren't divorced yet, and that will most likely take place next year. So she really hasn't had any closure. His "fling" with that teenager quickly ended (no surprise there!) but he went from fling to fling afterwards, not caring how he humiliated my daughter. And they have an absolutely precious three year old little boy who now has a broken home, thanks to his father. This is the little boy who I was so concerned about a year ago and some may remember how I asked for prayer because he was very speech delayed and qualified for Early Intervention. Well, he did do EI until he turned three, because in our state that is when it ends. I will say there is good news on that end. He made very good progress with the speech! He is still behind most three year olds speech wise, but has made very good progress and basically went from only 2-3 words when he started, to now having too many words to count and making small sentences. He is still hard to understand sometimes, but he's getting there. In only one year! So he is considered a success story and is now going to preschool and doing great. I really believe he will catch up to the others. Cognitively he is right on track with knowing all his colors, numbers, and most of the ABC's. So that is definitely an answered prayer. I really don't have a point to this post....I guess it is just a "state of the union" speech, lol. And to let you guys know I am still here. I am just sad a lot of the time. Between my daughter's situation, and my ES, it has just been very depressing. And with the impending birth.... you know how it is. And so many of my friends are having new grand babies and of course I go to the showers, and gush and goo over everything and plaster a fake smile on my face. Inside I am dying. Anyway, I just wanted to check in.
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Post by lindajoan on Oct 6, 2016 16:48:24 GMT
Poodle, I have missed you. I appreciate that you checked in and updated us. This way we know how to pray. It is a blessing to hear of the speech progress of your precious grandson. I remember of the sad word on your daughter's marriage. I am so sorry to hear that he was not remorseful. I pray your daughter would have the strength of the Lord to help her.
Now a new baby. My first thought was how much these children are missing out on. They need your love and guidance in their lives. Does your ES live near you? Do you feel led to reach out in some way after the birth?
Praying that God will supply comfort to you this month. We need one another.
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Post by luke2231 on Oct 7, 2016 14:05:07 GMT
Poodlegirl, I'm so sorry about how difficult your life is now. Estrangement just colors everything with darkness. It's hard to NOT be sad when it casts its shadow on the rest of life... I have to really, really look for the good in each and every day and some days it's almost impossible. I'm so glad you checked in here... I've been wondering how you are. Prayers and hugs for this season of stagnation to change for the better! God Bless you, Poodle...
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Post by byhisgracealone on Oct 7, 2016 22:15:19 GMT
Poodlegirl, I'm so sorry about everything happening for you right now. I know there are times I find difficult, and I remain a little quieter.... especially when I realize my GC are growing up without me, and that somehow, my ED thinks it's a hoot. I'm so sorry for our EC's immaturity and selfishness.
I'm praying our Lord and Savior will give us all the strength and courage we all need while enduring this....
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Post by poodlegirl61 on Oct 8, 2016 16:57:52 GMT
Thank you for your kind words everyone. Lindajoan, no, my ES lives in another state, about 5 hours away. And no, I absolutely do not feel led to reach out. Every time I have done that it has been disastrous. The last time I tried was Christmas when I sent a card and I was told not to ever reach out "or else". And before that I had sent gifts for the oldest grandson's birthday and was told how dumb must I be that I don't understand what "no contact" means, and how they threw the gifts away and never even gave them to him. So that is not an option. He does, however, still communicate by email with my youngest son who is living with us. He is the one who graduated college but had not found a job yet. Well I am happy to report he DID get a job as a physical therapy tech at the local hospital, so that is an answered prayer. Anyway, I am sure he will let him know when the baby is born, so that is how we will find out. I have no clue why he will talk to him, but not the rest of us. My oldest son, myself, and my husband have all tried, to no avail. My daughter refuses and is very upset with him. But that is another story. I am feeling better today. I went to my exercise class and the weather here in north Texas is just gorgeous. It is finally crisp and cool and feels like fall. I have started a new bible study by Beth Moore, and I am trying very hard to just trust God. Thank you for all your prayers and love.
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Post by lindajoan on Oct 8, 2016 23:41:30 GMT
Poodle, You are so right to put this in God's hands. He is able to do all things better than we ever could.
So glad to hear that your son got a new job. I am thankful that you started a new Bible Study. Thank you for sharing how the Lord is blessing. We need to continue to share. We need one another. God bless you.
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Post by 1hurtmom on Oct 14, 2016 17:25:43 GMT
I am feeling better today. Glad to hear!
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Post by bettyshe on Oct 16, 2016 7:41:10 GMT
Poodlegirl, I am thankful that you are feeling better...I care.
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Post by JeepGirl on Oct 18, 2016 14:00:11 GMT
Poodlegirl, I have been away from here for a little while but so glad I can return any time. I think, from time to time, many here feel like just taking a break from reading and writing about estrangement. Unfortunately, until reconciliation occurs, estrangement is always a part of us. Some times we do better in coping than other times.
I like that you simply "checked in". I was glad to see your post and others were also. I think that is a good idea for each of us, just check in from time to time. This isn't just "any" site, but God's Spirit is here and we need Him.
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Post by lindajoan on Oct 18, 2016 15:54:13 GMT
Glad to see you Jeepgirl. I missed you.
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Post by wonderbugg on Oct 19, 2016 17:28:15 GMT
Nice to meet you Poodle. Im new here.
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Post by poodlegirl61 on Oct 21, 2016 13:36:55 GMT
Welcome, wonderbugg! This is a very warm, welcoming place to be.
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Post by barbyzhere on Oct 28, 2016 0:03:04 GMT
Hi Poodlegirl, and everyone else. I haven't been here in a long time either. Tonight it feels like coming home. Do you remember me? I don't really know what to say either. My son and his family are still estranged, my beloved dog Lola died, and a deep depression settled in for the past few months. We have a wonderful little boy puppy now, and the depression has lifted somewhat, but there's a deep, deep sorrow that never goes away. I lost track of this new site, I'm so glad I found you again. So good to know you're all still here. God bless.
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Post by lindajoan on Oct 28, 2016 1:45:11 GMT
You have been missed. I am so blessed to hear from you. We are here to support one another. We need one another. We understand.
Situations may not appear to change with our EC but we continue to pray with faith. God is always at work even if it is behind the scenes.
I hope you are blessed by your sweet new puppy.
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Post by Deleted on Oct 28, 2016 1:50:42 GMT
HI!!!.... Missed you, but glad you are back and feeling better. Puppies can lift your spirit. A lot of work, but well worth it.
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