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Post by autumnwind on Sept 26, 2016 19:15:49 GMT
I decided I am going this weekend to see my daughter and grand daughter. Her birthday is this weekend, it will be an 8 hour drive. I tried to notify her that we were thinking of coming and wanted her thoughts, I got no reply. I just want to try one more time. I am prepared that I will not get a good reception. I know it is like Linda said, until her heart changes, I will continue to go thru this. I will definitely post what happened when I get back. Thank you all for your prayers.
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Post by luke2231 on Sept 26, 2016 19:32:19 GMT
Will be praying! I'm sure your brain has been in overdrive with all the "what-if's" so I pray that He will give you wisdom and peace on the drive there, softening of hearts and minds during, and assurance that He has the situation and relationships in His mighty hands!
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Post by lindajoan on Sept 26, 2016 21:20:19 GMT
It seems like God has led you to make this decision. I will pray that His love would be seen in you. Please keep us updated. God bless you.
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Post by bettyshe on Sept 28, 2016 7:32:16 GMT
Autumn, I pray that it is a safe and pleasant trip. The "mother" in you wants to go so, do what you want. With estrangement the behavior of our adult children seldom changes so be aware.....praying for you.
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Post by luke2231 on Oct 6, 2016 0:25:15 GMT
Just wondering how your trip went Autumn!?
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Post by autumnwind on Oct 6, 2016 1:56:29 GMT
We just got back today. I waited till her husband went to work and my granddaughter went to school. As some of you know she lives out in the desert, quite isolated. I was actually afraid I might get shot going on to their property. I had to crawl thru barb wire to get to her house. She opened the door and let all six of her dogs out, fortunately they remembered me. My daughter was surprised. I told her I came for her birthday. She actually was pleasant. I went with her to pick up my granddaughter, that was nice. Everything was ok, till her husband came home. He was furious. We tried to speak to him, but he would not even look at us. We left and went back the next day. She was not as nice. Her husband is very controlling and jealous. We stayed till he got home. He would not even get out of his truck. He does not have a relationship with his mother. We have reached out to him many, many times. As long as they are married, it will be this way. My prayer was answered though. The door was not shut on me. We did have a good day, where it was nice and I did get to spend a few hours with my granddaughter. I have to keep trying.
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Post by luke2231 on Oct 6, 2016 11:19:38 GMT
My DIL is very controlling too and I don't think we would be in this position were in not for her. I know that Biblically, divorce is the wrong thing, but honestly, I feel like we would have our son back if she were out of the picture. It seems like your daughter was open to a relationship with you as long as her husband wasn't around, so I'm glad you had that reassurance! And your daughter and granddaughter will definitely know you made every effort (crawling under barb wire!) to wish her happy birthday. That kind of love doesn't come back void.
I will pray that you will have opportunities to continue to reach out to her, and also that his heart (their hearts) will soften and be changed!
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Post by lindajoan on Oct 6, 2016 11:22:48 GMT
I am so thankful to hear that you were able to spend time with your daughter and granddaughter. It seems that she wants you to be in their lives. What you did took courage. This is a difficult situation with your SIL that only God can change. Only God and only prayer.
The Lord led you to go. You were obedient to His leading. Your daughter knows you care.
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