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Post by livingthelife on Sept 12, 2016 19:22:51 GMT
for the past year my ES and I have been in contact thru phone and FaceTime as I have been supporting him through his illness. He is now doing well however he has stopped communicating again when I talked about seeing each other. I feel like I have been led down that garden path again with the return of the old pain of rejection. I have admitted my powerlessness to God but I am left with my wounds. I would appreciate your prayers to see me thru. Reminders of my loss are everywhere as I see my own family with their children and grandchildren How have you dealt with rejection.
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Rejection
Sept 12, 2016 22:02:01 GMT
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Post by lindajoan on Sept 12, 2016 22:02:01 GMT
First of all, I am thankful to have you with us. We understand.
Rejection and betrayal (from our ED) are certainly wounds. It does not make sense coming from our adult children who we did so much for their entire lives. No one will treat them better. It hurts so much because it is underserved. It is sin on their part. We must pray for them.
Estrangement takes a great toll on us. I have found staying close to the Lord has helped the most. We may not get specific answers but we receive His strength.
Keeping you in prayer. Please share often. We care!
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Post by luke2231 on Sept 13, 2016 0:19:02 GMT
Livingthelife, I'm so sorry for your pain, and I certainly will keep you in my prayers. I'm pretty sure we're all familiar with the reminders everywhere of what "was and isn't." It's difficult sometimes to talk about it with friends and family, much less be in the middle of everyone else's happiness when you have a gaping hole in your heart. I'm praying that God fills that space with a love and a comfort so fully that you are at peace more and more.
I don't have any answers for you, but I will pray for you, and we're here when you need to pour your heart out. God Bless!
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Post by bettyshe on Sept 13, 2016 15:25:01 GMT
I know the deep pain of rejection and abandonment...lord help us all.
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Post by JeepGirl on Sept 15, 2016 2:40:05 GMT
Rejection, especially from an adult child or a spouse is devastating and affects everything about us. Our self-esteem, our relationship with the Lord (Questioning and asking if He is there), wondering if we have any value, and the list of negative feelings goes on and on. It is a list that can be so destructive to who we are, if we believe the lies around this rejection.
Initially,in estrangement, the rejection and all the other emotions are so intense, all consuming and so painful. But as time goes by and we begin to think more rationally about our situations, we begin to realize that those who reject us are those who really do not understand, those who have distorted memories and thoughts about the past, spread rumors and lies, and possibly may even have a mental disorder themselves. As a result, we cannot give their comments or actions credibility.
We all know God is in Control but the enemy is always lurking around trying to rob us of our joy. We have to be conscious of those attempts and, thankfully, we have this site we can turn to and share when our head is filled with destructive thoughts. We are God's daughters. So, I ask, what does that say about us? What can be any better than being a Child of God?
Living, remember who you are in Christ. HE has not rejected you and you are loved.
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Post by everloving11 on Sept 21, 2016 12:48:32 GMT
You could be Mother Teresa or some other saintly woman and your EC would still reject you. I think our EC are rejecting the authority we once had in their lives. I work in a Christian school with teens from all over the world so I know attitude in every language --- and I have seen those who estrange themselves from their parents. WE had a boy from South Korea who confided in me that, once he became a teenager, he would constantly slap his mother in the face - he says that is quite common in his culture. Coming to a Christian school in America showed him how horrible that action was. When conviction from the Father hits any child, it is very uncomfortable, so they will do anything to grab back a measure of happiness rather than deal with their emotional discomfort. I see our adult ES is trying to emotionally run away from personal responsibility that makes him feel hedged in. In other words, even though the rejection is aimed at you, it is not you that is being rejected. It is God. Until that relationship is restored or begun, there will be no lasting healing.
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Sept 21, 2016 16:40:51 GMT
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Post by lindajoan on Sept 21, 2016 16:40:51 GMT
I agree. I also see our EC as running away from the guilt of what they have done to their parents. The prayer of DH and I is that our ED turn to God (or back to God) first then back to family.
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Post by livingthelife on Sept 22, 2016 18:48:04 GMT
Thank you all for your kind words of support and wisdom and prayers.
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Post by wonderbugg on Oct 19, 2016 0:12:43 GMT
Some days I handle the rejection bravely. Others the pain and crying overwhelm. The most destructive way I tried was wine. Being a Christian didn't prevent it from becoming my very jealous sister. She wasn't easy to kick out of the house. The story of Joeseph in Genesis has become my mainstay. I can't seem to get away from it. There's something to learn and encourage every day. I also still go back to youtube and listen to Graham Cooke's sermon "Why wounded and betrayed believers are so useful to God." i like the longer version. I have no family members to support me in venting. They just don't want to think about it anymore. They have lost all hope. Faith comes from desperation, not "seeing". Jesus is always there for you. He is working. Trust. Hope. Never ever ever stop. He hasn't lost hope and we must not either. Also all the Dean Braxton youtubes about his near death experience helps. He speaks all around the US. Very encouraging. Hugs and love, Wonderbugg
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Post by 1hurtmom on Oct 19, 2016 2:08:33 GMT
livingthelife
I don't think rejection ever gets easier. I will pray for you right now...
Lord I pray for my friend that you would wrap your arms around her with your love, peace and acceptance that can only come from you and your supernatural power from heaven above. I pray for reconciliation within her family and that you would open her ES's eyes as to his behavior as it is contrary to your word. Let the child's heart be completely healed from whatever may ail them. Show your mighty grace tonight for this family and begin the healing process to restore hope and love that only you can do in Jesus name. Amen
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