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Post by difficulttime2 on Sept 11, 2016 22:01:59 GMT
This is one of those events in life that prior to estrangement, ... of course I'd call my daugher and let her know the puppy she picked out and raised as our family dog had to be put down from old age today ... 13 years ....
However, given the fact that we haven't heard one word from our ED in over 6 years and she did not respond or return phone calls when her own beloved Grandmother died (my mother, 8 mos after the estrangement) ... I don't know why I would think she would care about her dog dying today ....
Yet, somehow, those 'normal' phone calls that you would make at a time like this ... you just can't ... your hands are tied. Another smack in the face ... it is what it is.... So sad when their love grows so cold.
I'm sad, yet another 'end of an era' with the death of the family dog .... One of the last 'connections' my ED had to the family, gone.
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Post by luke2231 on Sept 11, 2016 22:25:53 GMT
Oh, Difficult... my heart hurts for you. And for your ED, who, has buried love for all these family things; it just adds another layer of heartbreak to an already devastating loss.
I'm facing this same thing soon, and not knowing even how I would contact my ES to let him know, makes me dread it all the more.
In some ways, the love for our pets can be as strong as a human relationship. THEY love you no matter what! I'm so glad that you were able to be there for "ED's" dog in the final days. Your faithfulness and kindness toward your daughter through her dog will not go unnoticed nor will be wasted!
Prayers and hugs for you during this difficult time...
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Post by bettyshe on Sept 11, 2016 22:49:21 GMT
If she didn't have it in her heart to return your calls when her dear grandmother passed I don't know that I'd worry about contacting her about the dog. Though they too are like family they are nothing like a dear grandmother. Story you are having to deal with this Pray, listen to your heart and do what you want to do. It's times like this that the full pain of estrangement blows in our face. My prayers and heart go out to you.
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Post by JeepGirl on Sept 11, 2016 23:04:16 GMT
Sorry for the loss of your dog, Difficult. We lost one of our horses last week and my dd said my gd cried for 24 hrs.
My es never met Murphy. Strange though......my estranged gs's girlfriend's name came up on my Fb page as a possible "friend". Was my gs using his girlfriend's page to see what was happening in my life? We just don't know what are ec are thinking or feeling.
If your ed hasn't seen her dog in 6yrs, who knows if she would care. But our kids do get nostalgic and if she knew she probably would feel sad. But she will find out someday when she realizes how wrong all this is and reconciliation occurs. And, sadly, she will be hit with everything, all at one time. It won't be good. But we know God can "...restore the years the locust has eaten." Until then,God knows you took care of your precious dog. Again,my condolences.
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Post by lindajoan on Sept 11, 2016 23:30:50 GMT
I am so sorry to hear of the loss of your dear pet. Our EC miss out on so much that they can never get back. Our ED missed out on the last few years of gleaning from her grandmother's life.
Let's keeping praying that one day they will repent and that there will be reconciliation. God is more than able.
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Post by difficulttime2 on Sept 12, 2016 22:33:13 GMT
thank you all ...
as I think about it today ... I am sure my ED wouldn't care that her dog died, or even if it were one of us for that matter.
Their 'wiring' has sort of shorted out somehow ... but my 'wiring' is still the same, and I am just hard wired to care and do the 'normal' thing ....
One more thing to let go of ... you know, the 'not' calling ... not reaching out ... all those things that would be just part of a normal response....
Days like these, it just seems more in my face than others.
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