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Post by luke2231 on Aug 6, 2016 20:26:47 GMT
When I last spoke to my ES in spring, he said he and his wife were probably moving overseas so she could get a masters degree there. I guess I hoped that he'd at least let me know if and when they moved. ES used the same email system that I did and when he was on, I could see that he was logged in to his account. For several weeks now, I haven't seen that he's "on," so I have no idea where he is. If he shut down the email account, if they've moved overseas... I have no clue.
I'm just so very very sad that I literally have no idea where he is or how I would get a hold of him if I needed to. I guess I'm having a hard time having any hope right now...
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Post by lindajoan on Aug 6, 2016 22:34:36 GMT
I am so sorry for this change. My prayer will be that he will reach out to you and let you know where he is now.
Estrangement is so difficult and it is not the way God would want things to be. I know our ED is in a different state now than she was but she will not reveal her address. She does have the same cell phone number. Our EC do not show consideration for our feelings and it makes us very sad.
Praying for you today. Please let us know how you are doing this week please. We care!
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Post by autumnwind on Aug 6, 2016 23:29:47 GMT
I am praying for you luke2231, I go thru the same thing. It is so hard. Its hard to wrap our heads around what went wrong. Its amazing how we hang on to the little green light, in my case, to know she is online. That is my only link also at times, just to know she is ok. Keep faith and keep praying. I hope you hear from your son or at least see he has logged in. I share your pain.
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Post by luke2231 on Aug 6, 2016 23:55:42 GMT
Thank you Autumn and LindaJoan. It IS comforting knowing that you KNOW... I could never have imagined that my sweet little boy that loved to make me Lego "I love you" signs and sit on the couch crying with me watching Haatchi when he was younger is just gone. Boggles the mind. I know God will make something good out of it, but it is hard to wrap my mind around how that can be. Thank you both for your kind words. Prayers for you as well!
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Post by byhisgracealone on Aug 7, 2016 1:31:23 GMT
It is so difficult to try and figure out what went wrong. Sometimes my mind wonders back to when my ED was a beautiful little girl who loved her mommy. She's now an entirely different person than the child I raised. I pray The Lord comforts you through this Luke, my ED lives in another state, and doesn't reveal her address to me either. It's all so disturbing and unnatural.
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Post by JeepGirl on Aug 8, 2016 0:53:06 GMT
Oh Luke, I feel so bad. Estrangement is bad enough and then add "now knowing" where they are to the mix. And then, reading lindajoan and byhisgrace and autumn and others who also do not know where their ec are. But, GOD KNOWS! And, Luke, you are so right....God WILL make something out of your estrangement and the rest of ours. It is this getting through that is so hard.
With everything that is going on in the world, I believe our estrangements are also part of what the Bible tells us is to happen. But, as long as we are still here, there is still time......Pray everyday, and many times a day. We just have to keep lifting up the names of our kids and grands and then release them each time and believe HE is truly going to make something of all this.
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Post by luke2231 on Aug 8, 2016 14:08:53 GMT
Yes, JeepGirl! God knows and can take care of my EC's needs so much better than I could. I guess while I was wallowing I forgot that silver lining. And I do pray as many times as he comes to mind during the day (and often through the night). I hate this for all of us, I really do. My husband tells me I need to stop playing the "what if" game with myself, but I just go there anyway. Thank you all for your words of encouragement and understanding. I pray for all of us that one day, we'll have not only reconciliation, but RESTORATION of the relationships... Hugs and prayers for you all...
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Post by poodlegirl61 on Aug 15, 2016 16:43:38 GMT
My ES and his family have moved and I didn't know where, but I just googled his name and it did pop up so now I know. The really weird thing is when I googled his name, it popped up on some pre-school parents list at some church preschool in Arkansas. Anyway, there his name was, and his new address. So then I googled the house, and the realtor pictures were still up and I even got to see his new house. It would have been better to see it in person, of course, but at least now I can picture him there.
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Post by byhisgracealone on Aug 15, 2016 21:32:11 GMT
It is very helpful when you can "imagine" in your head the home they're living in, etc..just to know they're okay, I guess. My ED tries to keep her location secret as well, but many people don't realize that companies, private entities, etc., post various photos and blogs that our EC are unaware of.
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Post by everloving11 on Aug 31, 2016 18:01:45 GMT
Blessings of the internet - I was able to 'find' my ES and his family after they moved to another state - they unfriended me from FB and changed their phone numbers so didn't want me 'following' them. I too looked on Google maps and "saw" their house. Knowing and seeing something really helped. It was difficult knowing I was so near them last summer when I landed at the airport nearby - but ignored the impulse to drive over. It was funny, in a God-sort of way, that the first person I met at my departing airport said they were going to a family reunion near my ES's house! I took that as a 'sign' that God knew and understood my angst and He had it all under control. Like you said, He loves ES so much more than I ever did or could!!!
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