Mary
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Post by Mary on Nov 8, 2021 23:30:25 GMT
Hello Christian Parents,
I am new to this website and am wondering how you all deal with your adult child not talking to you.
My son has stopped talking to me after what I thought were 30 blessed years together. He established himself well, married into a very wealthy family, and basically started judging all of our family members, dropping each one out of his life, and now me. I know I have been a good mom, certainly not perfect but have done so much for him.
How do you deal with this? Mother's day was the last time we talked and saw him. I called, texted, apologized for whatever I did, but never hear back.
With his birthday coming up and the holidays what do I do?
I pray for him and his new wife daily, have reached out, pray to God for guidance but the pain is still there.
Dear Lord I pray for all of you dealing with this and pray for peace. Mary
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Post by luke2231 on Nov 29, 2021 21:15:47 GMT
Mary,
There is no magic formula on how to deal with your child not talking to, because everyone is different. I hate this for you. For his birthday and holidays, do what feels authentic to you. If you want to reach out, do, but try to keep your tone light and happy. Hard, when you're breaking inside, but try your best. If it's too hard to reach out again knowing you may not get an answer, which would make your already difficult holidays harder, then don't.
I'm sure that you were and still are a good mom, but the sheer force of your love won't cause him to come back, as unfortunate as that is. So my suggestion on how to deal with this is... take care of yourself. Be compassionate to yourself. Treat yourself as you would a friend who is going through a difficult time. It's finding the strength in you - that God gives you - to find your value and worth in Him, and not in what your son thinks about you or how he treats you. That's a hard one, but for those estranged parents who seem to be able to "deal with it," it's because we've learned that lesson. Let go and let God. So cliche but so true. It's an unending lesson, but when you learn it, you'll find a great deal of peace.
Praying for you to find that peace, praying for you to make it through the holidays. xoxo
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