Hi Renate, Yes, the Lord is with us through it all. "The Lord is near to the brokenhearted, He saves those who are crushed in spirit." Psalm 34:18 Sometimes, especially during estrangement, we need to bring these verses to our minds and cling to them.
I am sure you know I have been reconciled with my son for about a year now, with my grands for 2 years. I will always check in here from time to time because the support I received here got me thru the toughest times of my life. When I couldn't pray, the women here would pray for me and would always encourage one another. I feel so bad that this site has become so inactive. Just not sure why because, unfortunately, estrangement is more prevalent than ever. I know there are other estrangement sites but hope there is a Christian one also. I experienced both during my estrangement and nothing can compare to having one where God is in it. Maybe God will place it on someone's heart to start a new one. At one time, we were on Daily Strength and had so many members. Then they switched to another format and many left and, sadly, they couldn't find this new site we moved to. Will pray!
This is such a difficult time in our world and filled with so much anxiety. Add estrangement to it. Honestly, I cannot imagine how much harder it has to be for those who are estranged now. The world was relatively calm during my estrangement and it was still so painful. What is the same, however, is our need for dependence on our Lord. I am praying more than ever, especially for those who are not saved, including family members. I may be reconciled but my son and family are not saved. If some here have adult children who are estranged but know Jesus, then that should give you some comfort. What could be more important?
Renate, glad you appreciate being alive and well and God is giving you time to pray, pray and pray some more. I pray for reconciliation for you and others who are on this site, if just reading. Please keep trusting God. Sending love and prayers...
I'm doing well. I'm not receiving - and haven't received - any notifications in I don't know how long, so I have to remember to look here. And I don't always remember. Maybe that's part of the problem; notifications aren't showing up, so people don't reply and keep the discussions going. Thank you for sharing that verse. Peace is sometimes hard to come by, and other times, my life just goes with the flow. We're having some things happen with one of our non-estranged kids right now, and that's taken my mind off our ES. One thing I know.... life is not easy. I don't know how people manage without knowing that a loving God fights for them.
Prayers and good wishes for you and all of us, really.
I am having such a hard time. Our three children before Thanksgiving decided to abandon us and won't speak to us. My husband had a business that failed we have struggled financially they think we don't manage are money well. Even though they were raised with love and faith..I was a stay at home Mom PTA president my husband had great jobs the kids had everything but our oldest two chdren rebelled In high school but we still worked with them and loved them got counseling. Our youngest daughter got married young to Christian man but he left her she got a divorce she still goes to church and now is married tova wonderful man with two beautiful kids but she is siding with her sister and brother in this..its a mess. They all have good jobs college educations and great spouses. The grandchildren are beautiful but they insist we are never right for them. Just because we have lost financially.My husband is 60 yes old and has been looking for a job..I work as a Medical Social Worker but because of his business we have no savings. Its like they all decided that by Thanksgiving 2020 Dad should have a job if he doesn't we don't want anything to do with you. The won't answer calls or texts they unfriended us on face book..my eldest daughter wrote me a letter saying we are basically irresponsible because we have no retirement. Its crazy. I don't know if its the Pandemic or what..feel so abandoned at the holidays. Not to mention my sister died of COVID in March and the kids grandfather died in October of Cancer. This year has just been horrible..I feel sick all the time wake up thinking about them..their pictures are all over the house..how can you treat your good parents like this??? I really feel it Satan trying to destroy our family. My husband and I are trying to be forgiving and have been praying..can you pray for us..the next few days are going to be horrible. Thanks for reading.
Karen63, I certainly will pray for you. Its terrible that your children think money is their god. They should overlook that you have no savings. So what. You are still their parents. My parents didn't have a lot of money but I still loved them. My grandparents didn't have much money at all. They didn't even have running water or a toilet in their house but we still loved them My own ED says she is estranging herself from us because she had to work when she went to college.
I hope for you that they get over their hurtful ways.
I'm so sorry you're struggling so. I sometimes don't' think that kids realize how life can happen and our fortunes are often tied to that. I mean, tons and tons of businesses are failing because of COVID. Is that necessarily those business owners' fault? Or is it because of the situation? We have a friend that's been super successful his whole life - through a lot of hard work - but because of the pandemic, his business is hanging by a thread and he's rolling any of his income back into making sure his employees still have paychecks. We once had a great deal of money in our retirement and savings accounts, but when the tech bubble crashed, even though we had invested diversely, we lost a lot. We also sacrificed for our kids' lives and educations, and although we do have retirement savings, it's not nearly what we'd like it to be.
I'm sorry that your children are so short-sighted and inexperienced that they don't understand that one day, they may in your shoes as well. Not every failed business or loss of income is due to poor financial management. Life happens. I find it sad that as Christians, your children are unable to forgive you. My own parents have made plenty of mistakes, and yet, I'm able to have a relationship with them. They are only human, like the rest of us.
I would agree that Satan is trying to destroy your family; he's trying to destroy every good thing, and yes, your family, and all of our families are included in that. Please don't lose hope though! I know your pain. I know how discouraged you are. I know that your children cutting off contact is incomprehensible, because you love and loved them so well. But I also know that God is working on your behalf. He is in control. He loves you and wants the best for you. And He has overcome every bad thing! Including what's happened to your family. Don't lose heart, keep your courage and your faith. God is the overcomer!!!