Post by JeepGirl on Jan 2, 2020 4:42:36 GMT
Hi Everyone, Well, the holidays are over. It is a brand new year.
I have friends that are estranged and others who are going thru the grief of the loss of a loved one. I can relate to their heartaches and can certainly understand their feelings about the holidays. My one friend who lost her husband recently not only had to get thru Thanksgiving and Christmas but their wedding anniversary was December 27th. In the midst of my joy of being reunited with my son, my heart ached for my friend and wanted to help but knew the best I could do was to pray,be sensitive to her and respect her decisions. I believe my own estrangement has made me more sensitive to the heartbreak of others and I try to choose my words carefully. I rarely said "Merry" Christmas this year. I also learned to respect their privacy and although I wanted one friend, in particular, to join us for dinners, etc., she was firm in stating she wanted to be by herself and was taking one day at a time. Isn't that how we felt, especially in the first days, months, year(s) of our estrangements? I dreaded Christmas for most of the years of my estrangement and like, my friends, was so glad when it was all over and it was the beginning of a New Year.
Coming here helped so much throughout the years. Being Believers, we would encourage each other with kind words and prayers, reminders to continue to trust in the Lord in spite of our circumstances and that He was in control. Life is so much harder for non-Believers and it makes me want to tell them about Jesus even more. I feel my testimony of estrangement will help in my witnessing to hurting people. Our estrangements certainly encompassed so many situations. I wasn't invited to my son's wedding, was not a part of the birth of my first grandchild, not invited to birthdays, graduations, etc. Had many distortions and untruths said about me and the list goes on and on. However, I know God is going to use my past pain to encourage others to come to know Him and to know there truly is hope in Him. The hardest part for me was the waiting and seeing year after year go by and trying to hang onto God's truth through it all. I guess I needed a lot of refining, but I am thankful now. Our sanctification as Believers involves more than we ever imagined, including our estrangements but, He truly walks with us and sustains us and will until the day He calls us Home.
New Year blessings...