One of the best things about our site is we are Christians and this is a place we can come to for prayer.
I cannot go into details but a friend who was estranged for a long time and then reconciled has again become estranged. They have been reconciled for quite a few years now and this is so devastating. It wasn't like some reconciliations that are on and off again. Things really had been good. My friend had watched grands, gone to school and sporting events, went on vacations together, everything grandparents and grandchildren do. She had entire family over for dinners and holidays. There are other circumstances which add to this estrangement and make this worse than the first time. I am heartbroken for my friend and, of course, praying but feel so helpless. I think of what is ahead for her and my heart breaks and I am asking God for a miracle. Would you please pray for her? Love each one of you here and I know you understand. Thank you so much.
Yes I will pray for this dear friend of yours. You are a faithful friend to her. At this time, the most you can do is show love, listen, and pray for her and with her. She needs a human hug. Jesus will remain faithful to her. Our Pastor just said yesterday that hard times can either draw us closer to the Lord or push us away. He said to let them push you closer.
We do understand the pain of what estrangement does to us. It is so against God’s plan. God bless your friend. God bless each one here with His Shalom.
I will pray for your friend. Only the Lord's comforting love can heal the pain she is experiencing. May He fill her heart with his peace which passes all understanding. I am now allowed to send text message to my ES. I also have been granted access to a website on which they post pictures of their son. Although I don't know why this estrangement has come about I have gained in faith. I trust in the Lord's plan for my life but there is still pain and longing. I imagine that He longs similarly for us when we stray from our relationship with Him. Thank you for bringing this prayer need to our attention.
Jeep, just sent up my first prayer for your friend...praying for her brought back memories of the deep pain this kind of situation causes. To hurt all over again (yes during my estrangement I experienced this also) seems much deeper than the original wound in someways. I know what a good friend you are Jeep and that until God gives her some relief I am happy that she has you by her side in the flesh and as we here her other Sisters continue to pray for the situation. God bless you Jeep...you are a treasure 😘 . With great love, Betty
Thank you for prayers for my friend. That is the most we can do and the best we can do, is to pray and place circumstances in God's hands and ask for His comfort upon those who are hurting.
Rose, I am also happy to hear about texting your ES. I have seen these small steps turn out to be the first steps to reconciliation.
This past weekend, my ES was at my grandson's (dd's son's) football game. Last year when this happened neither one of us spoke. I said "hi" to my diL (she has never been the problem) and my granddaughter, but not ES. Last Saturday, I had to walk right in front of my ES and grandson (who I now speak to). I said "hi" to my grandson and then turned to my ES, looked straight at him and said "hi". He did acknowledge me, but I couldn't tell you what he said. But he definitely nodded his head and mumbled something.
Since the game, I spoke to his daughter and even my diL in school, but didn't mention anything about seeing him at the game or what had happened. Neither of them were there. Whether my son or grandson said anything to either of them, I do not know. But I just feel like that was between us although my gs witnessed it and I am just leaving it right now. It may be a breakthrough and it may not but he has had such anger toward me that I have come to a place where I am at peace and know when and if he is ready to speak with me, it will happen. But, Rose, texting is certainly so much more. So happy to hear a report like yours.
Jeep, you did the right thing. I’m sure you’re gs witnessed that as well. First, seeing the grandchildren and now this breakthrough. It seems as if the Lord is using your relationship with the grandchildren to pave the way. We keep praying. God will make a way!
Post by everloving11 on Sept 19, 2019 19:47:46 GMT
Jeepgirl, have you invited your friend to this site? If I missed that, I am sorry. So, our family is in a hold-your-breath mode right now. A couple of weeks ago was our autistic granddaughter's birthday. Recently I noticed that our DNL's FB was open back up to us (after we were kicked out in 2015). So I messaged her and asked if she would give a birthday hug to her daughter from us. She said she would and then mentioned that our ES wanted to remain in contact with us and we could contact him if we wanted to......well, does a duck swim! Called him later under the pretense of asking how they fared in the wake of Dorian --- we talked for 2 1/2 hours. His love language is math and science and he happily carries me along as he patiently explains advanced concepts. We didn't talk about the elephant in the room (after all, I have already forgiven him in my heart so the problem is all his). Anyway, we are not pushing this opportunity --- it's been nearly a year since he last contacted us, so I guess once a year is something we should be thankful for! My advice for all of us who are being held hostage from any contact or sharing in the lives of our grandchildren ~ please accept whatever you get as a gift from God and enjoy the Father. As an historian, I am reminded that when the pioneers came out west, most of their families never saw them again and certainly never met their grandchildren. But the pioneers had each other and all were in the same boat. So, we also are in this fellow-SHIP called ESTRANGEMENT and we can encourage one another in this pioneering effort. God bless us all!!!
everloving, thank you for sharing that special opportunity you had in having a conversation with your ES. I hope this may be the start of many more conversations. Until God changes hearts and Only He can we can pray for our EC and going and grandchildren.
Thank you for being a supportive friend to our group.
Of course, I'll pray for your friend. Is it someone that once was on this site, or its predecessor? There are a couple of people I can think of who disappeared shortly after it moved from DS. I often think about them, as they both were so encouraging and offered a lot of wisdom when I first joined... How devastating to get to the mountain top only for a rockslide to push you to the valley floor again. That's pretty much life, isn't it? BTW, have a wonderful trip out west! We took a 6-week camping trip out west when our kids were in late elementary/early middle school and it was one of the best trips we've ever gone on! It's gorgeous out there.
I'm so happy to hear that you at least had a passing word with your son. That IS a victory, truly. 3 years ago it would have been unthinkable.
Rose, that's wonderful that you can text your ES now! That too is a victory! I am so happy for you. Each step forward for each of us, and the countless others who aren't here but face the same pain of not having a relationship with their children is a comfort to me.
Everloving, what you said about the pioneers is something I've often thought about as well (That, and what would the founding fathers think of how we've managed the country!). Anyway, the pilgrims also gave up so much, but it was for the freedom to worship; they recognized that relationship with Him was ultimately more important than relationships with their families. I'm glad to hear that you're in touch with your son again. May this be a sign of small steps toward full reconciliation!
Lindajoan, you too! I'm so glad that after so many years, you're able to text and communicate with your ED. Hope for us all! And thank you too, for continuing your stewardship of this site. I don't know where I'd be without it! xoxo