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Jul 17, 2018 5:09:37 GMT
Post by JeepGirl on Jul 17, 2018 5:09:37 GMT
Welcome, fallingleaves. Our site has not been active for quite a few months now and it seemed as though it was just dying a slow death. A few of us who have tried to keep posting in attempt to keep it up and running but we eventually got discouraged and just stopped posting. It is past midnight here and, for some reason, I checked in and saw your post, along with a few other new members. I sincerely apologize for not being available, but I believe God nudged me out of bed tonight and I am so glad He did.
Fallingleaves, most of us on this site truly understand and know the pain you are going through. When it first happens, it is absolutely devastating and as you said, "beyond anything I have dealt with." Having an adult child remove herself from your life is something we don't even think of during the parenting years. We just love those babies and spend years nurturing and raising them, protecting them and trying to be the best parents ever. We imagine the future and someday being doting grandparents and just doing lots of things as a "family". So, when they become estranged from us it is like our entire world is crumbling and a piece of our heart has been cut out. Add to that, not being able to see our precious grandchildren and we feel like we can't go on. I can remember being consumed 24/7, crying myself to sleep, asking myself so many questions, wondering where I went wrong, if we will ever speak again and so on, and so on and so on. Many of us sought counseling and many of us even got physically ill from all the emotions and mental anguish.
I can remember crying out to God and praying like I never prayed before, not understanding why He wasn't fixing this and, like you, thinking I was a good and loving mom all these years. Asking if I was being punished for something and asking God what to do to restore things and bring our family together again. And, I agree, fallingleaves, I still consider this the worst pain ever. However, being on this site and receiving so much encouragement, understanding and prayer helped me through this journey. I also became closer to God and realized He was with me ever minute and helped me keep moving forward, trusting in Him and believing in restoration in His time.
I am still estranged from my son after quite a few years but, recently, a door has been opened, ever so slightly, with my grandchildren and daughter-in-law. I will have to share that at another time since it is so late and I need to get up early for work tomorrow.
But, I also want to say that reconciliations have also been shared on this site which have provided hope and encouragement for each of us.
Please know that you are not alone even though you may feel like it at times. Please keep looking up to Jesus, seek His direction and feel free to share or ask any questions on here. This is a safe place and we just want to be here for you and pray for you.
Asking God to give you that Peace that only He can give when we are going through such heartache. Praying for your daughter and her husband to see how nothing is worth being estranged from your family and to forgive whatever she perceives as having been wrongfully done to her or her husband. Praying that she realizes how much you love her child and how you need to be in their lives. I also pray for God to give you direction in how to go forward and what to say or do or not say or do. He is our best Counselor.
Lots of love and prayers being sent your way...
Fallingleaves, most of us on this site truly understand and know the pain you are going through. When it first happens, it is absolutely devastating and as you said, "beyond anything I have dealt with." Having an adult child remove herself from your life is something we don't even think of during the parenting years. We just love those babies and spend years nurturing and raising them, protecting them and trying to be the best parents ever. We imagine the future and someday being doting grandparents and just doing lots of things as a "family". So, when they become estranged from us it is like our entire world is crumbling and a piece of our heart has been cut out. Add to that, not being able to see our precious grandchildren and we feel like we can't go on. I can remember being consumed 24/7, crying myself to sleep, asking myself so many questions, wondering where I went wrong, if we will ever speak again and so on, and so on and so on. Many of us sought counseling and many of us even got physically ill from all the emotions and mental anguish.
I can remember crying out to God and praying like I never prayed before, not understanding why He wasn't fixing this and, like you, thinking I was a good and loving mom all these years. Asking if I was being punished for something and asking God what to do to restore things and bring our family together again. And, I agree, fallingleaves, I still consider this the worst pain ever. However, being on this site and receiving so much encouragement, understanding and prayer helped me through this journey. I also became closer to God and realized He was with me ever minute and helped me keep moving forward, trusting in Him and believing in restoration in His time.
I am still estranged from my son after quite a few years but, recently, a door has been opened, ever so slightly, with my grandchildren and daughter-in-law. I will have to share that at another time since it is so late and I need to get up early for work tomorrow.
But, I also want to say that reconciliations have also been shared on this site which have provided hope and encouragement for each of us.
Please know that you are not alone even though you may feel like it at times. Please keep looking up to Jesus, seek His direction and feel free to share or ask any questions on here. This is a safe place and we just want to be here for you and pray for you.
Asking God to give you that Peace that only He can give when we are going through such heartache. Praying for your daughter and her husband to see how nothing is worth being estranged from your family and to forgive whatever she perceives as having been wrongfully done to her or her husband. Praying that she realizes how much you love her child and how you need to be in their lives. I also pray for God to give you direction in how to go forward and what to say or do or not say or do. He is our best Counselor.
Lots of love and prayers being sent your way...