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Post by JeepGirl on Feb 26, 2017 13:44:55 GMT
Would like feedback from everyone as to your thoughts on this.... Should Christian Parents be a part of Facebook?
I ask this question because the other day, while on FB, a friend from Daily Strength posted an encouraging quotation and it was under "Estranged Parents". I clicked on Estranged Parents and saw quite a few groups. One group was PEACE from DS and is now on Pro-boards. Under their title, there was a post dated February 20 referring people to their new site.
Would this be a good way to let more estranged parents know that we are here? For those of you who are FB savvy, would it be secure or possibly jeopardize our security? If anyone has time, maybe you can go to that FB site to get a clearer picture.
I know FB can be iffy for most of us. Last year, I went back on FB and I am extremely cautious who I "friend" and absolutely no one with a connection to my es and family. I have no desire to subject myself to additional hurt. However, with selected "friends" I have found FB to be quite comforting at times and a way to communicate with church friends and others.
Your thoughts?
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Post by luke2231 on Feb 26, 2017 14:51:23 GMT
I have seen some of the estranged parents groups on FB but I don't want others viewing my profile to know I am a member, thus haven't joined for that reason. However, I recently was invited to join a group (not estrangement related) that is secret. My understanding is that the secret group is not listed as part of your profile, so others can't see you are a member. To join, one has to be invited via email, or added by another member. So, someone would have to be willing to let others know their actual email address, as opposed to the privacy of these forums. Personally, I'm not opposed to a FB group as long as my membership to the group is kept secret from all my other "friends" etc... on FB. I think in some ways, it might be easier to connect and invite others through Facebook. I absolutely would only do it if it could be secret, and I suspect most of us feel the same. I'm an administrator for a non-secret group on FB, so I'll do some digging around in the settings and see what I can find.
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Post by difficulttime2 on Feb 26, 2017 22:23:43 GMT
I just don't 'do' facebook myself ... for lots of reasons. I don't think anything on facebook is 'private' But, I do think that for people on facebook, a Christian site is a good idea...
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Post by byhisgracealone on Feb 26, 2017 22:37:37 GMT
I'm not on facebook, I'm not comfortable with it, personally. I do think though, for those who are on it, it would be a good idea to let others know about our group. I just get a little nervous about trollers. None of us need to be verbally abused by those who troll the social media sites, looking for opportunities to abuse.
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Post by lindajoan on Feb 26, 2017 23:30:15 GMT
I am not on FB. However, if you think it would be of a help to get the word out about our group in a safe way it may be a good idea. We are here to help and support those who are led here. Thank you, jeep.
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Post by everloving11 on Feb 27, 2017 13:42:44 GMT
I would only be a part of it if it were secret. Even though my ES unfriended me on the open account, I would suspect that he is looking for more ammo against me. I also surmise that he thinks more about me (though on opposite emotional poles) than I do him - for that is how anger and bitterness works. In the past couple of months I have had a lot of men my age from all over the world asking me to be their friends - delete, delete, delete....
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Post by bythestreams on Feb 27, 2017 15:26:02 GMT
I didn't do Facebook for a long time. One winter so quiet I decided to go for it. My aim and goal is to only glorify the Lord on it as I feel He is saying to me "now" post that. Some of the things I post are His creation, a song, upbeat photos etc. I never intend to brag like so many do. Also I'm connected by so many Christian arthors, pastors, etc. Example Elizabeth Elliot, David jeremiah so I am always reading their uplifting posts in the Lord.Like so many things we choose to make it a good thing. Some folks I unfollow if it just doesn't feel God would be pleased to continue to read. I'm a people person so it's been good for me having lost 3 daughters who,i thought were my friends and 7 grands. One day God will justify and show mercy.
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Post by 1hurtmom on Feb 28, 2017 8:18:26 GMT
I don't have a personal fb but I do read those boards for extra support to let me know I a not alone.
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Post by luke2231 on Mar 2, 2017 0:57:05 GMT
Regarding secrecy on Facebook, I found this article that says a group can be made completely private, or secret. I am a member of a secret group, and to my knowledge, no one else has been able to see any posts or comments from it. I asked my daughter to look over my wall from within her account, and she saw nothing beyond the normal stuff. Also, I'm an administrator for a Closed group, and did check the group privacy options, and one is marked "secret." I know with the closed group, the other admin or I have to approve anyone before admitting them. There's a set criteria of questions where we gauge their truthfulness and identity. Actually, we kind of snoop and stalk them, but we have a very valid reason to do so. All that to say, I think it is possible, with the privacy settings AND a lot of diligence on the the administrative side, to completely hide this group. Here's a link if anyone is interested: www.shoutmeloud.com/how-to-keep-your-facebook-group-secret.htmlBy the way, There's also an app for phones that is specifically for facebook groups, so now it's possible to only see the groups you're a part of, without possibly seeing a post of Cousin Sherry' s visit with your EC!
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