Made it to counseling with ED
Feb 9, 2017 16:34:31 GMT
Post by wonderbugg on Feb 9, 2017 16:34:31 GMT
4+ years of estrangement from daughter and 3 grandchildren.
I'm posting for those who want an idea of what it is like.
The fact it happened at all is a miracle. I wrote to an old email wondering if it would go to cyberspace.
Shocked that she wrote back and agreed to counseling.
Took several months but we have made it twice.
Actually I had a bad feeling about the counselor we were to originally see.
No peace. I asked if we could see a family therapist instead.
After research I found they are different...very different.
Miracle number 2. Found a family therapist who is a Christian.
He opens and closes in prayer!
Be ready to cry, sob and weep a lot.
Be prepared for a broken heart.
Be prepared for icicles to hang like stalagtites from the ceiling.
Your EC may display as much hate and arrogance as mine does.
The room will be frosty.
Be prepared for satan to look you right in the eye.
It will be the biggest spiritual battle in your life!
He wants to kill, steal and destroy. He is NOT happy about you making it into the same room!
Do not expect anything good to be said about you.
Don't even expect eye contact.
This will absolutely be the hardest thing you will ever do.
One wrong comment and it can all slip away again.
The therapist wants to see how far I will be allowed into her and the kids life by the next meeting.
No other family members.
I was surprised he was pushing so fast.
She certainly expresses no wish for such a thing.
I was shocked she made another appointment.
Of course she may decide not to show up.
So this is where it stands at the moment.
Prayer got me here.
I'm greedy for all the prayers I can get.
It will be like a climb up Mt Everest.
But if the therapist gets my foot in the door, well,
Even a climb up Mt Everest begins with one step.
Right now I'm focused on that first step.
I'm posting for those who want an idea of what it is like.
The fact it happened at all is a miracle. I wrote to an old email wondering if it would go to cyberspace.
Shocked that she wrote back and agreed to counseling.
Took several months but we have made it twice.
Actually I had a bad feeling about the counselor we were to originally see.
No peace. I asked if we could see a family therapist instead.
After research I found they are different...very different.
Miracle number 2. Found a family therapist who is a Christian.
He opens and closes in prayer!
Be ready to cry, sob and weep a lot.
Be prepared for a broken heart.
Be prepared for icicles to hang like stalagtites from the ceiling.
Your EC may display as much hate and arrogance as mine does.
The room will be frosty.
Be prepared for satan to look you right in the eye.
It will be the biggest spiritual battle in your life!
He wants to kill, steal and destroy. He is NOT happy about you making it into the same room!
Do not expect anything good to be said about you.
Don't even expect eye contact.
This will absolutely be the hardest thing you will ever do.
One wrong comment and it can all slip away again.
The therapist wants to see how far I will be allowed into her and the kids life by the next meeting.
No other family members.
I was surprised he was pushing so fast.
She certainly expresses no wish for such a thing.
I was shocked she made another appointment.
Of course she may decide not to show up.
So this is where it stands at the moment.
Prayer got me here.
I'm greedy for all the prayers I can get.
It will be like a climb up Mt Everest.
But if the therapist gets my foot in the door, well,
Even a climb up Mt Everest begins with one step.
Right now I'm focused on that first step.
