New developments....

Well....our son is coming to see us again and bringing two of the boys!  Remember, he came the week before Christmas, just out of the blue, and said the "no contact rule was null and void" and he wants a relationship now.  He really hasn't mentioned his wife at all, even though I know they are together and all that.  Their boys are 3,2, and one born in October (all boys!)  Anyway, after he came in December, I was cautiously optimistic but still wary and guarded because we've been fooled before, but this time it does seem different.  He's called, texted, messaged, you name it.  And now he's coming again!  Our oldest son's boy is having his 5th birthday party on Friday evening, and our son wants to come to that, and bring his 3 year old and 2 year old and then spend the night with us!!!!  He said he would not be bringing the baby (or his wife for that matter).  He is still kind of tight lipped about her, and that is ok.  I know she is the two ton elephant in the room that we just don't talk about and I'm perfectly ok with that.  My husband and I tried to tell him three years ago that just because none of us could ever have a relationship with HER, doesn't mean he can't come see us and bring the kids from time to time.  At the time he flared up and said it was "impossible" and so forth. And now, miraculously, this is exactly what he is doing.  I have no idea why he has suddenly changed his mind, but I am just so thankful to God for it.  His sister with whom he has a very strained relationship with is going to be at the party so please pray all goes smoothly.  When I say he has a strained relationship with her, I need to add he has a strained relationship with ALL of us....me, his dad, older brother, younger brother, and sister.  He estranged from the entire family, but has made little peace offerings to everyone except her and she is extremely hurt and bitter, which I don't blame her.  He has said very cruel things about her on Facebook, mocking her divorce, etc. although to be fair, that was back in the summer, not recently.  Anyway, I am asking for prayer.  I am happy, yet very nervous about Friday night! He hasn't slept in our home for about six years!  And a lot has changed.  His old bedroom (upstairs) has been taken over by our 25 year old who is living at home with us now.  In fact, the entire upstairs has been taken over by him!  So that means our ES and his two boys will be sleeping in our daughter's old bedroom, which is downstairs, and pretty tiny, and I hope it doesn't upset him or cause any trouble there.  I am just a nervous Nelly over all of it.  So, please pray all goes smoothly and it is a big step in the right direction for everyone.  And pray for my daughter too!  Thanks!