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Post by lindajoan on Feb 2, 2017 12:31:21 GMT
What a lovely idea. Thank you for sharing.
It is a blessing to have you here. Please let us know how we may be of a suppprt to you. We understand and we care. God bless you.
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Post by everloving11 on Dec 1, 2017 13:39:37 GMT
I have a cloth "box" (in a storage system of wooden squares..) for each of our children (when I find something they leave after visiting or I see something that is just perfect for them or one of their children)and occasionally I put something in our ES box. This is the 3rd Christmas with no contact from him so I'm thinking of putting in a dollar for each year of age of the two grandchildren we have no contact with. IF he ever comes around, this will show in part we never disowned him and his children. IF he never shows up, the rest of our family can have our own party after a few more years with what is in there. This may sound strange to some, but it feels good to do something when nothing can be done. It's silly to get the youngest baby toys (which I first thought of doing when it seemed possible that ES would be back in our lives) when I may never see that baby until he's a teenager! I figure it's sort of a savings deposit acknowledging two grandchildren I would love to love. Yes, we each handle it in different ways but it is encouraging to hear how others approach this situation --- especially at Christmas and grandkid's birthdays.
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Post by JeepGirl on Dec 8, 2017 14:13:14 GMT
I see this original post and replies were from 2016 but, for those of us who are still estranged, the same questions exist every year and every holiday.
Depending on everyone's situation, I would respect our ec's wishes. If someone absoutely cannot refrain from contact, maybe an e-mail or card sending "love" with no other comments. No asking about reconciling, no making it an amends letter with apologies, etc. Simply Christmas wishes and love.
And, even with a simlple wish, we still need to be prepared for no reply or a reply filled with anger.
Our situations need so much prayer and God's wisdom and directions. His answer may not be what we 'feel' like doing but He is always right.
I am still praying and seeking God's will about my es and family. Prayers for each of us....
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