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Jul 8, 2016 23:09:11 GMT
Post by difficulttime2 on Jul 8, 2016 23:09:11 GMT
Unfortunately, I've been at this estrangement thing for 6 years now ... and for the most part I'm okay.... Some event in the news prompted me to look up my ED's facebook ... she wrote a new intro ... she said she is 'crazy' about Jesus and 'loves' her family.... I know better than to look ... I'm on the outside looking in. Clearly, she has a 'form of godliness' but denies the power thereof. So blind and I'm so sad today. Clearly, I'm not the 'family' she loves. She proudly boasts she is a wife and mother ... guess she forgets that it began with being a daughter.
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Jul 9, 2016 0:10:14 GMT
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Post by lindajoan on Jul 9, 2016 0:10:14 GMT
I am sorry to hear of what your ED wrote and I personally understand. It clearly does not go together to say you love Jesus and not treat your mother as God's Word says to do. I say this because our actione must line up with God's Word and it is a commandment to honor your parents.
I admit to peeking on FB too. My DH does not think it is good to do. It is often full of things that those on there want others to believe. It is not always truth. My ED speaks of the Lord or puts Christian songs on FB. Her life does not match up. Only God knows the truth and the whole picture. We can keep praying in faith believing that one day the Lord will convict their hearts. He is able.
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Jul 9, 2016 2:03:58 GMT
Post by JeepGirl on Jul 9, 2016 2:03:58 GMT
Try not to look at FB. It is so deceptive and the pictures truly don't tell the whole story. How often have you read about heartbreak on those pages or problems/struggles people go through. Not at all. Just think about it.......... No one is smiling constantly, enjoying happy family gatherings each week, perfect vacations, as well as perfect husbands and kids and friends. Just not true. Only when Adam and Eve were here and, then, things changed there too.
Difficult, I know it is hard not to want to get a "glimpse" of what is happening in our estranged children's lives, but no good comes from it. Curiosity may be satisfied but it is really not worth the thoughts and heartache that come along with it. I have not "friended" my dd on FB and I think we are both fine with it. Do I really want to see pics of her and my ex and grands all together? And this is my "dear" daughter. Also, I personally, know the background and hard feelings before and after and even during some of those pictures. Most of it is all "you know what".
And lots of people profess Christianity but you know as well as I do that their actions may not reflect it. And many times, my own actions don't line up with what Jesus would want from me. I am babbling because I feel your pain and wish I could take it away and can't say anything to make you feel better. We all know how crummy it feels when those old feelings come back, especially after years, and we think we have pretty much conquered this estrangement thing and realize we haven't and probably never will. My estrangement with e/s is also about six years and it doesn't feel better with time. The only good thing is, these feelings are farther and farther apart.
Prayers for good thoughts and loving thoughts this weekend, knowing that you are Jesus' child and He loves you.
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Jul 9, 2016 4:19:16 GMT
Post by difficulttime2 on Jul 9, 2016 4:19:16 GMT
thank you all so much ... the thing was that i know better than to look ... but I got emotional watching the news unfold showing unrest and danger in the city/state where I believe she lives. The 'normal' thing would be to pick up the phone and say "I hope you guys are okay ... you be careful yada yada yada" ... but because she wants zero contact ... I can't .... and I am caught in the middle wondering if they are okay, if they are even aware of the news ... if one or all of them could be in harms way.... It was stupid to look ... and I JUST NEEDED AND appreciate all of your support... Love you guys... HUGS
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Jul 9, 2016 11:56:47 GMT
Post by Deleted on Jul 9, 2016 11:56:47 GMT
To me, looking at fb is like stabbing myself in the heart! IT HURTS! Someone needs to conduct a survey to find the percentage of truth posted on FB. I have an idea it would be very low. I have overcomed the temptation of fb and been much happier since that day.
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Jul 10, 2016 23:56:54 GMT
Post by Hope on Jul 10, 2016 23:56:54 GMT
I'm so sorry for those of you experienceing additional hurt from FB. During the 4 years of estrangement, for some reason my ES never defriended us. Initially in the first couple of years he would post once in awhile family events that we were not invited to be at. That hurt immensely. A couple times I temporarily deactivated FB because of the hurt, but FB friends would message (even family) me saying they missed my post. I mostly post scripture from my morning devotions and sometimes comments. I found out that some of my FB friends looked forward to those post. But it was hard to see my ESs post, but I did not want to block him. I took some hope from the fact that he never defriended me, nor his dad. Then he stopped posting for over a year, then suddenly he posted a few pictures of our grandsons just before he made contact with us. My dh and I both liked the pics, and hoped that maybe he wanted us to see them. But I so understand the hurt and the pain. Just press into Jesus, and take comfort in His love for you. You might need to distance yourself from FB for a time, but keep,hoping and praying. Remember our time here is just one moment in eternity. The full healing and reunion will be in heaven, where we will rejoice in our complete healing for an eternity.
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Jul 11, 2016 0:17:00 GMT
Post by Deleted on Jul 11, 2016 0:17:00 GMT
beautiful! Thank you for your reply.
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