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Post by Daniel on Feb 22, 2021 9:15:28 GMT
How does it feel to have a perfect family? I do not know the answer to that question. It would take a rather large book to explain all that came about and it would not even matter if you knew the details. Homelessness and drugs are all around us and for years, I confess that I mostly ignored these people. Families are experiencing degrees of loss. I love the Lord and trust in Christ Jesus for salvation of my youngest daughter and for me. I feel a tremendous loss though. I have become sensitive to the needs of strangers who remind me of my daughter. I pray that my daughter Kel will be safe and someday will return to be the mother of her daughter who she abandoned. It is a mess. Both parents are on drugs and they abandoned their child, leaving others to raise her.
I ask for strength to handle the emptiness that I feel because of not knowing where my daughter lays her head at night. It rips my heart. It has been costly for us for the rehab and grandchild expenses. Our prayer is for Kel’s safety and return.
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Post by luke2231 on Feb 22, 2021 14:13:31 GMT
Daniel,
I'm so sorry for the burden and pain that your daughter has put upon you. It is so hard to raise your children to love the Lord and they break your heart (and His) by walking away. Many others on this forum have been in and are in your situation as well. Of course you feel a loss; you're grieving for the hopes and dreams that you had when you brought your beautiful daughter home from the hospital. You're grieving especially, a daughter free from the bonds of addiction and so much more.
Sometimes it's more than I can bear, but God is always with me in my darkest moments. He is with you too, as I'm sure you're aware. I too, have no idea where my child is, and it definitely is a lesson in trust and faith that God hasn't forgotten him (or me) and has a plan for good. Not to minimize your pain and emptiness, but maybe part of that good is the awareness you have for the strangers that you might have overlooked before this happened with your daughter. Maybe the compassion and understanding that you have for them will bring one of them to know Him one day. Maybe your reliance on God is stronger now than ever because of this estrangement. Again, I don't want to seem patronizing, but in my weakest and darkest moments, I look for these small positives in my own journey. I recently reconnected with a friend from college whose son went no contact with her and because of my experiences, I've been able to help her through this horrible heartache. God is using me to help and love others, which is some good in the middle of all of this.
Standing in agreement with you for strength, a peace that the Lord has this in hand, wisdom to love her even as she is in a land far away, for the finances to care for your grandchild, and for Kel to overcome her addiction. Please know that we're here for you.
Blessings,
Luke
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Post by renate9 on Mar 5, 2021 1:46:44 GMT
So sorry for your loss. I know the feeling. My daughter won't talk to me. She says forgiveness is old fashioned. She says I made too many mistakes for her to have a relationship with me.
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Post by rose on Mar 18, 2021 5:05:06 GMT
I am sorry to learn of the struggles you are undergoing. My story is so different because my God fearing son never drank, smoked, or used substances and kept himself pure until marriage. Not long after he announced he was cutting off contact.
I will not pretend to understand your pain. I would like to share an inspiring observation from another member of this group. In short her observation is that the pain of rejection from our children is an experience we share with Our Lord himself. We uniquely understand the pain He feels when any of his children reject Him.
I hope this thought brings you some comfort. My thoughts and prayers are with you.
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Post by heartmom on Mar 18, 2021 17:19:33 GMT
So sorry for your loss. I know the feeling. My daughter won't talk to me. She says forgiveness is old fashioned. She says I made too many mistakes for her to have a relationship with me. I know the same feeling. Our son doesn’t say forgiveness is old fashioned and he say she has forgiven me; for what I do not know, because he won’t tell me what I have ever done to hurt him as he says I have. I have prayed and prayed and felt I have given it to God but then I have a good Christian lady friend of mine that seems to think I haven’t completely as I am still so heartbroken! But, how can a mother not be? |
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Post by luke2231 on Mar 20, 2021 12:54:34 GMT
heartmom,
Have you ever heard that forgiveness is a choice that we need to choose over and over again? Matt 18: 21 &22 talks about forgiving someone 70 x 7 times, because it's just that hard to "get over" how we've been hurt. I would venture to say that giving something to God is similar; it's not a one and done.... It's good that you have a Christian friend that you can share this with, but until someone has experienced estrangement, it's virtually impossible to understand. Sending hugs to you...
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