Post by JeepGirl on Feb 1, 2020 21:33:28 GMT
Hi Everyone, As most of you know, I was recently reconciled with es. He was just over a little while ago and I found out what made him start talking to me again. First, he said that "the kids were talking to you and you were talking to ....... (my dil) in school, and I wasn't feeling well and I realized it took more out of me to be angry than just forgetting about everything."
Basically, he was worried that his health was failing because of our estrangement. Here I thought he really missed me and wanted to talk again. lol But, honestly, I am okay with it. God uses many people and many situations to bring people to Him and that includes our estrangements as well. Some people may be critical of my son's reasoning but I know it was God. So, I recommend to just pray and accept whatever means God uses.
Some of you may also remember that when we started talking a few months ago, at football games, I felt like God was telling me to remain quiet and not to say anything about our little conversations to anyone other than my husband who was with me when we started talking. I did not mention a word to my daughter, my daughter-in-law or my granddaughter (es's daughter). I felt that if my son wanted anyone to know anything, he would have to be the one to say something. God gave me that wisdom. My daughter got offended that no one told her right away and said that to me and also to my es. Today, I had the opportunity to tell my son that I learned so many things from being estranged and made a commitment to not share anything with anyone in the family unless it concerned them. He found that out first-hand when my daughter questioned him. He said he thought I had told her. I reiterated that nothing is coming out of my mouth to anyone unless it concerned them. This was the first opportunity for my son to see things have changed. I don't like to use this term or admit that this was what I was doing when I talked about my son, but it was pure gossip. UGH
It also occurred to me that my daughter might be fueling the estrangement fire which was going on. They were still talking to each other. Most of us know that siblings are often jealous of each other and may not really want us to start talking to their estranged brother/sister. Of course, our situations and adult children are each different, but as you are in the waiting period, take in all the wisdom God gives you about your particular situation. Now, I realize that the Lord was actually preparing me for the reconciliation as I was seeing my own shortcomings.
As we want to be ready when Jesus comes, we want to be ready when reconciliation occurs.