Post by JeepGirl on Jan 11, 2020 15:59:35 GMT
I remember discussing this question several years ago on this site. One administrator, in fact, moved to another state and found it so much easier. She shared about making new friends, people not knowing about her estrangement and how it helped ease thoughts of being estranged. My husband and I tossed the idea of moving around many times. My son and family live 15 minutes down the road and most of my destinations would take me past his community. That meant it was even harder to push the estrangement and memories to the back of mind. We were indecisive as to whether or not to move for many years.
One friend, who also lived close to her es, decided to sell their home and move; however, shortly thereafter, they moved back home. Upon their return, she received a call from her es "wanting to become a family again." After hearing that, I decided moving away could possibly ruin any chance of reconciliation.
Three years ago, we decided to sell our home and thought, again, about moving to another state. Our house just wouldn't sell. It was only three months ago that we finally had a buyer. Shortly afterwards, my es and I began talking at one of my grandson's football games. Now, I believe our house didn't sell because of God's timing. We kept praying and saying we trusted in Him for any reconciliation but, like many of us, still wanted to have control.
I don't think there is any right answer to the question of moving or staying close to ec. Admittedly, for me, living so close brought a lot of pain and just kept estrangement in the forefront while others found having a distance between them helped. I say that about there not 'being any right answer' because if we believe God is in control, He can bring families together no matter how close or how far they live from one another. And how incredible will those testimonies be?