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Oh wee, I must be doing it wrong. I did not arrive here. But I’ll keep trying,
EVERYONE, I’m in need of prayer. For those of you that don’t know my-many years estranged daughter pasted away 4 years ago. I would not wish that on anyone. trust me it is worse than anything one would imagine. That being said, I had the opportunity to be with a relative that I have not seen in a long time and enjoyed their company...that is until I became too relaxed over the two days and let a feeling I was surprised to come out of my life...while speaking about the loss of my Daughter I shared that my life was much more peaceful now that she is gone...in many ways. I don’t have the public shaming, dealing with her at relatives homes, holidays and more. What I meant was that I needed the pain and embarrassment to be gone...the relative said that I was wrong to feel more relaxed now even though they know and experienced her acts to hurt me. I could not help them to see that I meant the pain ceasing gave me a chance to not be a nerves wreck. I hope that this relative will not tell others as he said “that I was happy about her passing. This has caused me to feel depressed and feel get sorrow. I hope that you get what I am saying...pray for my forgiveness quit honestly I don’t know what to pray for but I need help...
Hi Betty, I am sorry that you could not say a simple comment without being pounced upon. No one should tell you how to feel. Others who have not gone through the pain of estrangement and the tragedy of the loss of a child can never understand. Please realize that you said nothing against anyone. After your daughter’s passing you may have had some peace coming from the closure it gave. This is very understandable. Plus you are being honest. Why not? God sees our hearts.
I think the best thing to do is to let it go. The person does not understand the situation. We forgive because we are forgiven!
Oh Linda! God bless that you are here for... “such a time like this”... you put into words “ After your daughter’s passing you may have had some peace coming from the closure it gave.” As I search my heart that is what I am feeling. There are NO words to express the total mix of emotions I felt and still feel...that coupled with the fact that I can share those emotions with no one..ever makes it even harder. The pain is what I needed relief from. My estrangement came about from Parental Alienation to the extreme-from a man who was much more powerful and connected than me. I had no family in this town to help me. It was a HORRENDOUS time for me...more than 25 years. Were it not for the Lord I would have lost my mind. Jeep and Luke helped me so very much, during some years of that time and I am forever thankful.
Linda, thank you so very very much for your wise council to me at this time. Every word you said is what was in my heart... I just didn’t know how to really put it into words. But now I do and it has been a long time coming. That you for your prayers...as you can see this place is much needed.
Hi Betty, I am grateful to the Lord that we can share with our sisters in the Lord. I can relate to the marital problems you describe. My Mother had that and I learned too young how emotional abuse is often harder than physical abuse.
We are few in number but I am thankful that you are here.