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Post by JeepGirl on Feb 27, 2019 2:34:15 GMT
Hi Everyone, Just wanted to come by and share a couple of things which have changed in my life. I am continuing to see my ES's kids. They have been over my house a couple of times and visits have been good. I also sub more for my granddaughter and she will visit my class and usually comes by during lunch. I always make sure to bake cookies or bring a treat for her. My dil has texted me several times, asking me about my health, and talking about my grands. My ES still doesn't talk to me and I really don't bring him up to my grands or dil. If my grands bring up their dad, I am careful to only talk about him in a positive way or, in some cases, just remain quiet. I don't want them to feel uncomfortable in any way. I thank the Lord each time I see them and appreciate the gift (miracle) He has given me. I have accepted where I am with my son and believe, in time, we will reconcile. But the ball is totally in his court. Absolutely nothing I can do, except just love his kids. My estrangement has been going on for years but I always trusted in Him. Never sure what the outcome would be but always knew He is faithful and that reconciliation would be in His time.
The reason I have not been here in a while is because on January 31st I had a lumpectomy. No breast cancer in my family history. I am so grateful to the Lord that it was removed and doctor says she removed all the cancer and the pathology report indicated that it had not gone to the lymph nodes. Soon, I will begin radiation (preventative) and "possibly" take a hormone pill for 5 years which I am still not sure about. But, truly taking one step at a time. Like here, I even found a Christian forum for cancer survivors.
I have done so much research since my diagnosis and everything I read, including what my surgeon and oncologist told me is that Stress is a major factor in cancer. I truly believe, my 10 years of estrangement and all the heartache, tears and emotions played a big part in this. Those of us who have been on this journey for some time, definitely know how we have been affected mentally and physically from our estrangements. I have begun a huge turn around, including nutrition, exercise, but even more importantly, I am tossing the stress, with the Lord's help, of course. It doesn't come easy but I started with little things and find many things that used to stress me out in the past, do not any longer. I look at things differently, and ask myself, "Seriously, is this worth getting upset about?" And it has to be applied to our estrangements. I know it is so much harder when the estrangement is new but, even then, please think about your future health. If you haven't seen your grands, don't you want to be around when God restores your relationship? I am not a physician but check out what stress does to our systems and how different cells and organs are affected. And lastly, please go for your check-ups. I waited six years since my last mammo and that was foolish. I thank the Lord that my situation wasn't worse. Love going out to each of you along with lots of prayers...
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Post by lindajoan on Feb 27, 2019 13:59:03 GMT
O Jeepgirl, I truly have missed you. The Lord kept putting you on my mind. I kept checking for your posts.
I am so thankful to hear that the procedure was a success. Praise God! You will be in my prayers for complete and total healing. Please do keep us updated. You are so right that stress has an adverse affect on our bodies and our minds.
What are true miracle you have seen with your grandchildren and your dil. God can do the same with your son in His perfect timing.
God bless you with health and peace.
Love, Linda
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Post by rose on Mar 3, 2019 3:37:05 GMT
Jeepgirl, I am so sorry to hear about your cancer. I am praising God for the victory he is manifesting in you. Your example of faith within this community is an inspiration and comfort to me and others. You are in my prayers.
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Post by everloving11 on Mar 4, 2019 4:15:00 GMT
So sorry to hear about the cancer but so glad it was caught in time. Funny, but I've been thinking a lot about stress lately and determining (or trying to) not let it be my master. Even seeing that you had posted but unable to get into the site was frustrating but I had to just wait it out until "it" let me in again. Thank you for the wake-up call for all of us! I have thought for years that cancer comes from three basic sources: heredity, environment, and emotions. Let's see where I am on that scale.....YIKES! But worrying about it only adds to the chemical chaos! God bless you, Jeep Girl, and I am praying for you.
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Post by 1hurtmom on Mar 7, 2019 4:48:51 GMT
🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏
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Post by fallingleaves on Mar 9, 2019 4:41:30 GMT
Dear JeepGirl, Your positivity, faith, love and courage that shines for others on this board will carry you through to healing. You are in my prayers always. I will light a candle for you. With God all things are possible!
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Post by luke2231 on Apr 20, 2019 13:11:28 GMT
Jeep!!!
How on EARTH did I miss this?!?!?!?! I am so very sorry, but so very very grateful that it was caught in time and that the outlook is positive. I'm so very grateful that you're alright, and my sincerest apologies that I missed this post. My only excuse is that someone keeps posting garbage about car chargers or something and I've been ignoring the majority of posts here. Still... I'm sorry that I haven't been here for you. You're a dear friend and I want you to know if there's anything I can do (several states away) or pray for specifically, you know I will. 😘
I believe I had shared that I also had a lumpectomy (it was a benign tumor though) about a year after our son estranged, and the doctor told me it was likely stress related as well. I also started grinding my teeth at night because of stress. It's a weird place to be, getting rid of that stress, because unlike people whose children are actually deceased, there's no easy conversation and abundance of sympathy for estranged parents, so unless we get on forums like this, we can't easily offload that stress. Diet and exercise help, but that feeling of being "less-than," of being unloved by our child, is always there, always a weight that we bear and it surely causes stress. But the minor stresses... the idiot driver that cuts you off, the loud customer holding up the checkout line... those are stresses we can easily let go of. You're so right to recognize this, and I hope that it strengthens and heals you!
I'm so glad to hear that you are in more contact with your grandchildren and DIL. That is a gift and one which you deserve. It has been a long, long time without them in your life and I'm sure they're just as happy to have you around as you are to be around them. How are things with your daughter? Are you gearing up to work at the little shop on the shore again this summer? Did you sell your home?
Again, I'm so sorry I didn't see this before now, but know that you are in my prayers. At this most wonderful of holidays, may this year be a reminder that resurrection is real. God Bless and much love....
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Post by lindajoan on Apr 20, 2019 21:28:37 GMT
I truly hope that Jeepgirl will check in and give us an update. We’ll keep you in prayer, our friend.
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Post by bettyshe on May 1, 2019 13:06:56 GMT
Oh Jeep, I am so happy that you saw your doctor when you did. Estrangement is such an all consuming place to be that it is no wonder that time can fly by before we can remember to look out for our own health. But glory to God that you did. I lift you up in continued prayer dear woman of God. I am so happy that you continue to have contact with you daughter-in-law and grand children. You are loved and prayer for dear friend. I thank God for your message of faith and dependence on God.
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Post by lindajoan on Jun 1, 2019 13:04:27 GMT
Jeepgirl, Please let us know how you are? Thinking of you often! 🙏🏻
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Post by bettyshe on Jul 27, 2019 10:03:57 GMT
Yes Jeep, I know that your life has been very busy of late but please know that you are a part of us and that our prayers and concerns are with great love. May God continue to bless you.
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Post by lindajoan on Jul 27, 2019 19:31:11 GMT
Bettyshe, Thank you for checking in regarding Jeep. I would love to hear how she is feeling. Ladies, please keep in touch. You are missed by me and I’m sure by others. Even if there is no new news about your ES/ED just let us how you are doing and offer up some encouragement to old and new members. I check in here everyday. God bless you all!
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Post by bettyshe on Jul 28, 2019 3:15:22 GMT
Thank you Linda for responding to my post. This site is a life line to many of us and I pray that it will continue to draw others who need a safe place to share. God bless you .
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Post by lindajoan on Jul 28, 2019 12:17:53 GMT
I agree Betty. God bless you.
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Post by bettyshe on Jul 29, 2019 16:22:47 GMT
I do have a question Linda, how do/can those in need find us? I came here from the old site. I tried finding us when I lost the link that I had on my old phone. Thank God I still have it on my iPad or I would never ever been able to come here again. I searched for every word combination of words I could think of and I found nothing.. how do I find us on the web if I an new to this problem and need help?
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