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Post by everloving11 on Dec 11, 2018 2:18:02 GMT
I know that in my last post I stated that I didn't think I'd ever hear from our son again but I was wrong --- I was delightfully wrong! He called us last Monday night and talked with my husband for an hour and a half then with me for just as long. Yesterday, his wife emailed me 5 pictures of the grandson I've never met then had me call and I talked for another 45 minutes...and got to hear both the grandchildren call me "GRANDMA." Slow reconciliation is measured in minutes, you know. All this was born out of a catastrophe on his part, but all are ok though they need counseling. Disaster brings hope. He was even thinking about coming to live with us for a bit to "get his head on straight." Amazing. As I watch a Hallmark movie about estrangement then reconciliation, I shed tears again but THIS year they are tears of thankfulness to the One who gives us hope. All is not complete yet but it's a start. He still needs to come back to the Lord, so he can know the true reconciliation of Christ. I haven't shared until now because I have to keep pinching myself that we have this treasure. Perhaps if I said something to you, the bubble would burst and all would be gone again! I have dreamed about this moment so often that this all seems surreal. Three years of absolutely nothing --- no contact --- on  ly rejection. Then this unexpected present. Oh please, don't give up, dear ones. If someone like my son who is proud of his independent stubbornness could come back then anyone can. ![]()  Jesus says, "I will come for you." |
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Post by luke2231 on Dec 11, 2018 10:55:37 GMT
Oh, everloving!!! My heart is so full and glad for you, truly. It’s a Christmas miracle, isn’t? And how precious that you will get to know your grand babies too! I’m glad you told us and I don’t think the bubble will burst because of it 😉...
In all honesty though, no doubt whatever crisis is going on in his life DID bring about his reconnection; we often have to be at the bottom until we start looking around and needing the love that was always there all along, whether it’s family and especially Jesus. In some ways, estrangement forced me to go deeper and wider seeking Him. Praying for his relationship with the Father to be restored as well...
In another round of honesty and vulnerability though... while I am so, so very, very happy for you, and your story does give me a small measure of hope, I feel like you did previously; it’s also been three years and I don’t expect to hear from our son. He married a woman that’s an atheist and despises us for our Christian beliefs. In choosing to love her, he’s turned his back on God, as well as every person and value he was raised with. Unless she has a “come to Jesus” experience (which I pray for) I doubt we’ll ever see him again. Like the Hallmark movies that make you cry, I’m crying tears of joy for you, but also sadness for our family. I hope you don’t mind that I said this. As you know, holidays can be hard...
I will absolutely and completely keep your beautifully unfolding situation in my prayers. I know too, that you will be faithful in praying miracles over the rest of us as well...
Sending you love and wrapping my arms around your family this wonderful Christmas season!
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Post by lindajoan on Dec 11, 2018 13:42:38 GMT
O Everlasting, This is truly a Christmas miracle! All Praise be to God! Only Jesus can change hearts! Only He can answer prayer! Only He can save! What a miracle! Please keep us posted on your reconciliation with your son and family. I will keep it in prayer.
Luke, Our only hope is in Jesus. He is able! I will keep you and your family in prayer.
God bless each one here especially at the Christmas season.
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Post by everloving11 on Dec 11, 2018 13:50:40 GMT
Oh, I'm hugging you as well luke2231. "We cry with those who cry and rejoice with those who rejoice." The situation with our son seemed impossible also because he prided himself on hurting me. Yet, we have this result. "With God, nothing is impossible."
Even if our son turns his back on us again and even if your son never comes "home" to your heart, God is still there like the picture I posted - holding you, loving you, and delighting in you. His thoughts for you are more than all the grains of sand on the earth. And no one or nothing can take that away!!!! Thank you for rejoicing with me ~ and I am praying for you.
Our stories are still being written by the hand of our Master. We are His workmanship ~ His 'poema' ~ His poem with your name in the title. Yes, you know I will be faithful in praying miracles over the rest of you all.
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Post by everloving11 on Dec 11, 2018 14:09:04 GMT
Thank you Linda Joan ~ I posted this to encourage all of us that God is active in constantly interacting on our behalf for His honor and glory. No matter the outcome, He is at work. Still holding my breath --- but laughing in abandon as well!
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Post by luke2231 on Dec 11, 2018 17:30:55 GMT
Everloving, I hope you know that I despite what I said about my own situation, I am so very, very happy for you, I really am. I know you've been where I am and understand, that's why I said it, but please know that it does my heart such good to see seemingly "impossible" reconcilaiations happening!!! And, I believe in my heart of hearts that one day, even if it's an eternal day that God will bring our son "home." I may not understand the why's and the how's but I do know that God purposes ALL things together for good, even my son's choice of wife and your son's hard heart and catastrophe too.
Rejoicing at the miracle and shedding tears of joy with and for you...
xoxo
Luke
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Post by everloving11 on Dec 11, 2018 21:47:30 GMT
Oh Yes I knew that!!! I'm only hoping that this will encourage those of us who think our situation is impossible (as I thought mine was) so that we will take heart and hope that God can intervene even in our stubborn and bitter EC lives. I prayed 13 years for my husband to get saved - and he did. I prayed 43 years for my mother to get saved - and she did. I prayed for 3 years for my son to get back with the Lord - hasn't happened yet but this is a start!
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Post by JeepGirl on Dec 16, 2018 2:24:00 GMT
So, so Happy for you, Everloving! All praise to our Lord. Yes, He can do the impossible. And He can do the same for each one here. I want to always come on here and have the privilege of hearing each reconciliation unfold. Each of us has experienced so much heartache over the years and yet remained faithful, trusting and believing God is in control and that He has His hand on our lives no matter how hopeless it felt at times. And this is a testimony for all newly estranged parents, as well. He truly does turn the darkness into light. Everloving, just enjoy every moment, every call, every text, every picture, everything. Things become so much sweeter and precious after estrangement. Again, so happy for you and your family and, especially, for you sharing your reconciliation with us.
And my prayers going up for Lindajoan and Luke. I want to be here and share in your joy, as well, when God restores your families. And, Luke, don't ever apologize for your transparency. I love that about you. Each one of us knows that as you shed tears for your own child, you are genuinely happy for each reconciliation.
As for me, I have seen my granddaughter a few times now and spoke to my dil in school. My grandson still has not visited me but I told my granddaughter that maybe her brother and all the grands can come here during Christmas vacation and she thought that was a great idea. But, I am grateful for what God has already done and feel so blessed. Funny, just today, I was thinking about my es and what will it take for him to want to end this. I know there is nothing I can do at this point and I pray the Lord will soften him. Like others here, he really doesn't want to have anything to do with me and has said many hateful things but, as we have seen, God can do the impossible. Prayers, blessings and love going out to each of my sisters during this Christmas season.
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