Renate9, we all carry a lot of pain because of our estrangements. We pray that God will release us from this pain but for now ...it is ours to bare. Coming here helps us understand that we are not alone and that with God’s help we can bare this form of rejection. As we wait we can (if our health permits) reach out and help others in small ways. This month is the Alzheimer’s Walk “for the cure” and there are other Seniors who could use a phone call or a meal. I am walking for the Cure of Alzheimer’s and raising money for the cause as well... Lets go out and help so done else.
The Hurricane passed us by with only rain and flooding.thank you all for praying for us.
I found the culmination of the pain and stress of estrangement has an affect on us physically and mentally. It wears a person down.
Blessings to you our friend for taking on this most important cause. I presently have 2 friends whose husbands have Alzheimer’s. Very sad! It seems the longer we live we see that everyone struggles in a different area. It also seems that more women than ever have an estranged adult child or an adult child that they hardly ever hear from. No respect, no caring, and no following the commandment to “honor their parents”. So wrong and so sad for families.
The Estranged child is not a winner. They have actually lost the most. Only Jesus is the “One True Hope”. Grace wins!
It is so late and I came on just to check in and my heart is breaking from all the pain. But that is why we have all come here, some at different times, because that is how life is.
Everloving, I remember reading about your large family in the past and, admittedly, at times, felt envious because I have a very small family. I just read your posts and was just shocked. I am not minimizing their situations at all, its just that at this point in life and doing social work in the past, I pretty much have heard it all. What shocked me the most is how a family which was so close can get so entangled with the junk of this world, resulting in more family estrangements. This is all the work of satan. He is out to destroy families. Prayng for God's intervention and for healings to occur.
Renate, it is so hard, especially when they live close by. I have experienced it also. ES just down the road. Being able to see my grands this past year has helped me like I could never have imagined. I guess it is because non of this was their fault. They have been victims also. But, when we think about our adult kids not talking to us and, in your case, a sister, as well, it is just so hard. If I didn't have God in my life through all of it, there is no way I could have survived. Also, this site and my precious sisters here have always been understanding, encouraging and loving...always trusting in God.
And, lindajoan, you have ALWAYS been here for each of us, even when no one was posting, always faithful. You were checking in and praying. I know God will return your daughter to you but its the waiting. The "fixing" time can seem like forever, but you know and I know that HE is working in each of our estranged adult children's lives as we continue to faithfully pray.
And, Luke, don't ever think your weren't a good friend. You have helped so many of us when we needed it. And when you couldn't be here, God was always here and made certain everyone was taken care. I have been away also and sometimes that is needed. But we come back don't we? He knows when we need to. Prayers and so much love being sent to everyone...
Linda, I didn't work all summer but God knew I would be needing spine surgery. I talked about what was happening to me in an earlier post, not long ago. I am recovering and doing great. Next month, will go for my mammogram follow-up and a little nervous about that but not crazy nervous. I know God has this. Next week, I will go back to subbing. Grateful I can. My es's daughter will be a senior in high school this year and loves me subbing for her. Do you remember in middle school she wouldn't talk to me or accept a graduation gift I had for her? At that point, things seemed so hopeless. Now, we text, she drives here, we went shopping and baked with other grand last week. Saying this because I really didn't expect this but God knew. And He knows about my es also and each of yours. He hasn't left us. Love and blessings...
We have seen such answers to prayer for you. PTL! Your health will continue to improve.
I certainly remember that sad time with the grandchildren. What another answer to prayer. It is amazing that you can spend time with them and have a great impact on their lives. It sounds like a win/win to me.