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Post by bythecreeks on Aug 30, 2018 13:14:30 GMT
Hey y'all. It's been 5 years since this estrangement started this month. I got angry over the 5 year mark this summer and ask the LORD to give me a key to this to help me. In a few days He said to me I CARRIED YOU THESE 5 YEARS. Oh yes He has with the holidays, birthdays, day to day. My yoke is heavy with 3 children and 7 grandchildren. He has also led me back to reread BE STILL,Let Jesus calm your storm by Cherie Hill. My Sunday school teacher, 82 years old last week said over the book of James."He will lift your burden when He has finished His work on you." This is more about us. He loves us so much.
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Post by luke2231 on Aug 30, 2018 16:21:10 GMT
Hi bythecreek! I'm a 'y'all"-er too from the South!
I'm so sorry about the 5 year mark. It's been almost 3 for me, and I can distinctly remember at the beginning thinking it would only be a few months. And then, after a few months, thinking surely it wouldn't last a year.. Or two, or three, or... who knows how long? It's so painful isn't it, not only the estrangement, but the duration? But as you say, the further into "it" I am, I think God is using this to change my perception of who I am in Him! I just read a book and the author said that while gong through difficulties a few years ago, she was challenged by someone to not read the Bible always trying to see ourselves in it, but to read it to see God in it. I think that's what the estrangement has done for me. Of course, I tend to think it's all about me, but it's really not - it's about how great and mighty and compassionate and loving He is.
Sending you hugs...
Luke
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Post by lindajoan on Aug 30, 2018 17:02:41 GMT
Bythecreeks, I am sorry you have come to the 5 year mark of estrangement. It is very difficult in every way. You are so right when you say Jesus has carried us. He is so faithful to us. Our ED left home at age 20 over 6 years ago. It is sad and it has been a very rocky road for her as well. So many poor choices have been made by her. We will keep you in prayer.
Luke, Thank you for always sharing encouraging words. God bless you.
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Post by JeepGirl on Sept 4, 2018 3:17:54 GMT
Glad you found us, bythecreek. Being angry is part of this journey and certain dates trigger our emotions. I found that the longer I have been estranged, although times of depression and anger still occur, they are not as frequent as in the beginning.
I have been estranged from my es for about 8 years and from my gc for about 4 years(I was allowed to see my grands in the beginning). Recently, I had my granddaughter visit me for the first time in four years. If you go back and read some of my past posts, you will see how an opening came about these past six months and it still has a long way to go and I am not even sure what direction it will go in. But I am more patient and understanding than I was 8 years ago and, hopefully, have more wisdom. All glory to God. It is a painful journey for each of us and hard to describe to anyone who hasn't been there. But, those of us who are a little further ahead in our estrangements can offer sincere and true encouragement. God is our HOPE and HE loves each of us. Lifting you in prayer and asking the Lord to give you His assurance and peace.
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