Hi Everyone
Aug 8, 2018 13:14:00 GMT
Post by everloving11 on Aug 8, 2018 13:14:00 GMT
Falling leaves, we are all here for you. Yes, there are so many triggers that bring us back to the happy times we had with our EC.
I am learning to smile along with those times instead of regretting that those times are gone or that I don't have the opportunity to enjoy them anymore. I keep a scrapbook for our family of all the Christmases since my husband and I were children. At first, as I looked back over the previous Christmases when things were ok, it was painful but I allowed myself the privilege of thanking God for the good times we all had together.
Years ago, I read an insightful Dear Abby that has stuck with me. A woman couldn't get beyond grieving the death of her daughter. (Estrangement is so much like death, without the memorial service...) Abby told this story to her: Suppose God came to you and said he had a baby girl in mind for you. She would be the apple of your eye, full of giggles and cuteness. Do you want this child? The mother replied, "Of course!" God continued, "But wait, there's more. She will only be with you a short time and then I will take her away from you. Do you still want her?" The mother pondered this awhile then softly responded with a quiet yes.
When it comes right down to it, I wouldn't give up those precious times with our es (dinosaur talks resonate with me as well). Did this revelation happen all at once? No. But the more I persisted in getting on with life, and the more I realized I wasn't alone in this journey (thanks in large part to this wonderful group of parents), the easier it has become to cope. Yesterday, I saw a video online of a little girl who encouraged her mother to run with her through the rain. Instantly, a memory of my DIL (married to my es) and I doing exactly that flitted before me; we were giggling like little girls and getting completely wet to the bone. And I smiled...treasuring the emotional snapshot of a precious time. No regrets.
As the time for our leaves to soon be falling is soon upon us, I'll be thinking of you and praying.
I am learning to smile along with those times instead of regretting that those times are gone or that I don't have the opportunity to enjoy them anymore. I keep a scrapbook for our family of all the Christmases since my husband and I were children. At first, as I looked back over the previous Christmases when things were ok, it was painful but I allowed myself the privilege of thanking God for the good times we all had together.
Years ago, I read an insightful Dear Abby that has stuck with me. A woman couldn't get beyond grieving the death of her daughter. (Estrangement is so much like death, without the memorial service...) Abby told this story to her: Suppose God came to you and said he had a baby girl in mind for you. She would be the apple of your eye, full of giggles and cuteness. Do you want this child? The mother replied, "Of course!" God continued, "But wait, there's more. She will only be with you a short time and then I will take her away from you. Do you still want her?" The mother pondered this awhile then softly responded with a quiet yes.
When it comes right down to it, I wouldn't give up those precious times with our es (dinosaur talks resonate with me as well). Did this revelation happen all at once? No. But the more I persisted in getting on with life, and the more I realized I wasn't alone in this journey (thanks in large part to this wonderful group of parents), the easier it has become to cope. Yesterday, I saw a video online of a little girl who encouraged her mother to run with her through the rain. Instantly, a memory of my DIL (married to my es) and I doing exactly that flitted before me; we were giggling like little girls and getting completely wet to the bone. And I smiled...treasuring the emotional snapshot of a precious time. No regrets.
As the time for our leaves to soon be falling is soon upon us, I'll be thinking of you and praying.