Post by JeepGirl on Feb 2, 2018 0:12:32 GMT
Hi Everyone, As always, I preface anything I post here by saying Dr. Coleman is a secular counselor and everyone may not agree with him. I find some of his writings very helpful and this one in particular. I honestly believe my es has many of these characteristics, along with parental alienation. It is so hard to deal with and, for the most part, I have to place it in God's hands and I keep praying. If you go to Dr. Coleman's website, you will see he has weekly free webinars but also has ones that you need to pay for. I am praying about signing up for this one because it is so relevant to my situation.
BORDERLINE PERSONALITY DISORDER AND ESTRANGEMENT
Some of you have asked me about the definition of Borderline Personality Disorder. Here are some of the more common symptoms:
• * Extreme reactions-including panic, depression, rage, or frantic actions to abandonment or disappointment, whether real or perceived
• * A pattern of intense and stormy relationships with family, friends, and loved ones, often veering from extreme closeness and love (idealization) to extreme dislike or anger (devaluation). Black and white thinking is very common.
• * Distorted and unstable self-image or sense of self, which can result in sudden changes in feelings, opinions, values, or plans and goals for the future (such as school or career choices)
• * Impulsive and often dangerous behaviors, such as spending sprees, unsafe sex, substance abuse, reckless driving, and binge eating
• * Recurring suicidal behaviors or threats or self-harming behavior, such as cutting
• * Intense and highly changeable moods, with each episode lasting from a few hours to a few days
• * Chronic feelings of emptiness and/or boredom
• * Inappropriate, intense anger or problems controlling anger
• * Stress-related paranoia or severe dissociative symptoms, such as feeling cut off from oneself, observing oneself from outside the body, or losing touch with reality.
Those with borderline personality disorder may feel angry and distressed over minor separations-such as vacations, business trips, or sudden changes of plans-from people to whom they feel close. Studies show that people with this disorder may see anger in an emotionally neutral face and have a stronger reaction to words with negative meanings than people who do not have the disorder.
As you could imagine, a close family member with this diagnosis may be very difficult to live with and may end up choosing estrangement because of their difficulty knowing how to manage the intensity of their thoughts and feelings. If you think your adult child or their spouse may be mentally ill, then join us this Tuesday for:
DOES MY CHILD OR THEIR SPOUSE HAVE MENTAL ILLNESS?
Recognizing the Signs
Tuesday Feb 6th
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