Post by JeepGirl on Nov 20, 2017 1:12:51 GMT
As always, I preface this post by saying that I know everybody might not agree with Dr. Coleman, but I just thought this was a fairly good blog. I know he is coming from a secular perspective but I think some good suggestions are in here and he does have a "free" webinar on Tuesday. If interested, just go to his site and register. If you are not able to listen live, once you register, you can listen to recorded session at your convenience. It is a call-in program and whenever I have listened, I have always found it helpful. You are also able to send a question. He actually answered one of mine and it was a turning point in my estrangement.
Saying No on the Holidays
Don't feel obligated to say yes to events on high-risk days such as holidays.
So many parents, mothers in particular, have a hard time prioritizing their own well-being because they're socialized to put themselves last. They worry so much about hurting other people's feelings that it shuts down their ability to actively think through what is in their best interest.
My advice regarding high-risk days: BE SELFISH. If you think you're going to feel too sad, jealous, angry or upset by seeing your friends or other family members with their adult children and grandchildren, then you shouldn't go. No, this isn't a strategy for everything-we can't hole up forever. But, high-risk days have the potential to pack a much bigger wallop because of all of the memories that get evoked, and because we get inundated with commercials, media reminders about family, and pictures and invitations from friends and families. Sometimes it's better to deal with the guilt and just not go.
When you have to say yes
But, sometimes we have to say yes, whether it's because it will create too many questions if we don't, or because there are people at the event that we want to see despite the risk of feeling bad. And even if we say no, there is still the possibility of running into people that we can't avoid. This is something we'll discuss in more detail this Tuesday for our FREE webinar
Tuesday Nov 21st
530 Pacific, 630 Mountain, 730 Central, 830 Eastern
SURVIVING THE HOLIDAYS and OTHER DAYS
Do's and Don'ts
